If, on their own, and for reasons unforeseen, they _want_ to be taken shopping for brassiers, my husband will handle it.

I love you so….hard. So hard. It's not even funny. I fucking love your sarcastic wit. Your humor is the same as mine. You make data sexy. Need I go on?

Damn right, Ed, this isn't livejournal and emoticons and qualifiers are lame.

I JUST had a snafu over the weekend with some Gays. I sent a message over Facebook asking people why they hated gay people because they hadn't responded to this event invitation that was for The Gays. I had to issue an apology and listen to people tell me that my sense of humor wasn't funny. I'm a queer, they're queers. I thought the irony would be spot on. So this exchange right here hits close to home. If you can't laugh at oppression and patriarchal bullshit, you might as well throw yourself off a bridge now because shit aint gettin no better.

But in regards to the topic: who gives a shit if your nipples are erect? Seriously? They are nipples. They might as well be earlobes for all I care. I understand the weight society gives nipples, but why should I be concerned if they are perkier than usual? I have breasts, dammit. Beautiful ones I am told, so there is no reason people should be alarmed if my nipples reflect the coldness of the room.

Whatever. Great post as usual.

Your point has been made quite clearly. Suggesting that I should rethink my position is great. I certainly do re-think things when groups of people I respect tell me I'm wrong.

That said, re-thought does not always produce a change in my position. I know what my own intent is, and I am comfortable that my motives are not insidious.

Sacred cows don't work with humor. Either you find the concept of me making fun of horrible things (such as, for example, misogyny or racism) in offensive ways funny or you do not. My only complaints come when people pick and choose issues that "aren't funny."

Nobody complains when I sarcastically adopt the voice of a rural idiot talking about "them colored folk." That is pretty offensive. It's also funny, and you also know that I don't mean "I approve of this worldview". Nobody complains when I make jokes about abortion, the Holocaust, prisoner abuse, and every other manner of horrible thing.

I can live with "You're not funny." What is impossible for me, or anyone else, to accomodate is an attitude that a few subjects are off limits. My style of humor is often to say a stupid, misogynist thing to highlight the fact that misogyny is stupid. Again, if that is not acceptable to you, I understand. My attitude remains that consistency is important. Picking and choosing doesn't work because we will all pick and choose different things, and by the time we get done removing everything that someone calls "off limits" we have a Leno monologue.

I take it back.

This is what exhausts us. Some guy we like, who is obviously clever and perceptive, says something appalling, about women.

Well, what's our option? We can shut up, which, you know, we do, a lot. And I mean a fucking lot. You have no idea how often we just shut up and eat this shit.

Or we can, as nicely as fucking possible, Ed, point out that maybe you want to rethink your position.

Then we can be told we're acting like crybabies, silly girls with no sense of humor.

(http://www.theunapologeticmexican.org/glosario.html#witedisdain)

If I didn't have a ten-year-old, maybe I would shut up.

I know it's your blog and you can do what you want.

Well, do what you want.

Dude, I honestly didn't get the sarcasm. Even reading it again:
"I’ve long believed that, rampant societal misogyny aside, being female is a pretty sweet deal. This commercial changed everything."

I think that, given the subordinate qualifying phrase, it was hard to detect the first statement as sarcasm.

I suspect it had something to do with my brain being less effective once the topic of discussion was boobs.

Also, amusingly, I mentioned this post to one of my coworkers, and she was all "Oh yeah! I have that bra! It's AWESOME!!!"

[ tmi? ] The main benefit of that kind of thing is for the woman with large enough breasts that she doesn't want a "full coverage" bra (which is often padded all over) but does want to prevent nip showage. We both prefer to avoid the padding (seriously, I do not need help in that area!) but it's tough to be "modest" in terms of nips while avoiding giant overpadded bras.

If that level of humor is indicative of standing up for the patriarchy and counting myself among the ignorant masses of male oppressors, then I don't know what to say. This is the wrong blog for you, I guess. You can't have a sense of humor about everything except gender issues and expect that a person with a sense of humor is going to accomodate your boundaries.